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Possibly, it's hard to determine intention from online dialogue. However, most of the folks here are good dudes and duddettes that really want to help people out. Unfortunately, we've had our share of people who come here and are, shall we say, less than honest. Some people are a bit trigger shy when threads like this are started due to past experiences. I am not here to condone or condemn actions, only to illustrate some of what you may be sensing. Edit for context: At the end of the day, you screwed up. You will likely take some crap for it and you are going to have to deal with it. Show us that you are an intelligent, mature professional and accept that and move on. Some of the hard questions asked here very well may come up when you move foreword with your plans to be a provider. You will need to accept this and deal with the consequences and questions as maturely as possible. Show us you have moved beyond your past mistakes, show the others here that you are serious about being a good provider. Sometimes that means accepting that some people may question your ability to be a safe, competent and professional provider. I will leave you with the words of Maynard: "Keep your dignity, take the high road, take it like a man." Good luck as you move foreword.

Wise words, my friend. Wise words, indeed. Yes, RseCty, you came here with questions asked by others before you. Some of the responses you received were, in fact, biased by those who came before you. Some of the responses you received were probably motivated by years of experience dealing with alcohol related incidents. The fairness of those responses to you is debatable. However, given the, shall we say, evolving nature of the stories in your posts it can be argued that they were warranted. You need to understand, too, that in this business we see a lot of alcohol related incidents. None of them are good. Many of them have very negative outcomes. I'd argue all of them were preventable. I'll let the others speak for their own experiences. You're new to us. We don't know you. We have no basis to believe anything about you changing. This will be true in a professional standing, too. The greater the distance between the present day and the incidents in question the better. For now, though, you're still young and too close in time to the events in question. Just so you understand, too, getting defensive, while understandable, doesn't always paint the picture of someone who's learned from their past. You think you're up to the challenge? Good. Prove it. Understand that you put yourself slightly behind the eight ball both in terms of professional standing and hirability. You are going to have to work harder, longer and do more simply because of your past actions. Understand, too, that we hear all the time "...but I've *changed*..." only to see those people blow it. Simply saying that you aren't the same person anymore isn't going to cut it. Prove it. Keep proving it. The longer you prove it the better your standing. Such is the price for some mistakes people make. I'd like to add, too, that I also have a significant bias against alcohol. I do not consume it. I've seen people die from it personally and professionally. I've lost family members to it. I've seen lives destroyed by it. I am not unwilling to help people who are trying to improve themselves. Just understand that you're going to have to work harder. If you're up to the task, despite your lukewarm reception here, this is an excellent place to gain perspective, education and support... even from those who replied to your initial posts in a manner you found offensive (as mentioned, intent is hard to interpret in an online forum). If you're really interested in improving yourself this is one of the best places to do it.