Just Plain Ruff

Ok, Read a question here from a very respected (ok I respect him) friend, I'm going to turn it around a little. Guy's and gals, I want you to really really think long and hard and answer it from the heart. This is a serious question. "What do you do when your spouse doesn't respect your ideas?" Talking points, How do you approach your spouse to talk about how she/he makes you feel without fighting about it? How do you keep from clamming up and just holding it in? Do you just crumb...