Peraonally? I don't really. In most cases I still have pts to attend to and that holds my focus and I've been lucky in my EMS career that as long as there are patients to take care of then nothing really phases me. Men, women, children, sometimes the effect that the death has on the family hurts my heart a little bit, but I don't think that I've ever had feelings for those that have died.
I haven't, but I would if I felt like it.
I haven't but I might some day. As I get older it seems like I turn into a bigger and bigger baby by the month. I bawled my eyes out the last time I left Babs and Dylan at the airport to go back to Afghanistan. I cried the last time I talked to Dylan and he asked me to come home early, yet I knew I couldn't. If you cry for effect, then you should knock that shit off. Otherwise crying, though many find it embarrassing, is good and healthy.
Grin, if someone needs to cry, there is no allowing it or not. I've had partners and coworkers cry and it's always given me great respect for them as human beings, though again, the reason for their tears was emotional and not theatrical. There is an adorable little nurse at the ER in the last town I worked. Smart, kind, compassionate, always seemed to be there when my partner and I brought in someone that was destined to die, which is usually CPR in progress periodic return of pulses. She was a stud! Always in the middle of things, quiet, efficient, smart...but after each pronouncement of death you could find her in a little corner somewhere crying for the person who'd died.
Near the end of my tenure there a had come to know her well enough that I would stand next to her, with our shoulders/hips touching, and I'd just be with her, and her with me for a few minutes. It was a gift... Until you've been there and done that it will be hard for you to see that she showed her strength in her tears, not her weakness. Many can deal with pain/suffering/death by building walls that won't allow it to effect them, in her tears I saw that she refused to do that. She'd decided to do her job yet leave herself open to any of the feelings that came with it when the time was appropriate, and it was obvious in her care. I've thought of her often and try and model her emotional behavior...I liked it a lot.
I'd not heard a single derogatory word spoken in regards to her way of dealing with things, and I believe it's because most saw her the same way I did.
Much too complex to do here brother. I've helped many people that I love near and through the end of their lives, but this has nothing to do with those that I help as a paramedic.
To me this seems self evident. If you were born, and I'm guessing that most of you reading this were, then you must die. There are no other options. Again, the death of someone has no effect on me that I have ever noticed, but caring for those that have just, or are just about to see their deceased loved ones is sometimes difficult. But they are my patients now, physically and emotionally I am there to care for them and that keeps my little pea brain occupied...
Great questions Kyle...I'd be interested in your continued thoughts...
Dwayne