Ever had to change a negative personal trait you didn't know you had? How did you go about it?

[Happiness]

oh okay, it was not read as you had written it then

[BushyFromOz]

Well, i get conflicting advice from my colleagues

Basically its 50/50 "yea, probably not the best way talk to people but understandable, you should still apologise" the other on i am getting is "some people need to harden up a bit and justb see it for what it is - a single moment in a high pressure job"

As has been pointed out though by a couple of more astute people, not all paramedics are made equal.

It pisses me off to no end that the new guys are not treated the same way i was. they seem to get it fucken easy, this gen y shit where they get wrapped in cotton wool " dont hurt their feelings" kind of crap. Guys are the worst for it, they cant help but cut the girls some slack but if they were blokes the older guys would cut them a new one

It also pisses me off that it seems to be that myself and a couple of other guys are being held to a much higher standard than other guys of similar experience. The mediocre guys perform the bare minimum required and get by and people just expect it from them. The high achievers get a lot more pressure on them to be high achievers which is ultimately my point

I dont ask for anything that was never asked of me in terms of job performance, and when they cant perform i get a bit snappy.

Basically i have to lower my standards and expectations of other paramedics.. weird huh?

[Kiwiology]

The new generation are a bunch of bitches who can't handle shit and need to harden the fuck up

<Chopper Reid>

This is Kiwi .. he just ate a bunch of artery hardening ice cream, then had his mother call and say she found the porn him and his ex wife made on his old computer he gave her that he was 100% positive he had formatted the hard drive on, is watching a graphic presentation on trauma including shattered femurs and burns, went to the dentist today with no pain relief, and ... just pulled his cock even though it hurt because it was only an hour since the last time. Fucking spot on Kiwi!

</Chopper>

Edited September 27, 2012 by Kiwiology

[BushyFromOz]

Man, its a shame not everyone will get how damn funny that really is!

[Kiwiology]

True that shit bro

http://vimeo.com/29585863

[Arctickat]

I don't get it.

[Bieber]

Yes. It was a real struggle for me, but I actually had to stop being quite so awesome.

=D

Lol, no but really... I'm developing a reputation for being an arrogant asshole. Which I probably need to change (see, definitely), although to be honest I'm not very cognizant of the things I do or say that have given me that reputation (at least, not at the time I'm doing them). It might in part be from taking so much initiative at work (i.e. submitting proposals, etc), but probably mostly just for speaking my mind to much (see, no brain-mouth filter).

I don't know. I'm sure I am an arrogant asshole, and more than a little narcissistic (along with a multitude of other personality flaws)... If I could be a more likable person I would, but I guess it's easier said than done.

[DFIB]

So, read the thread title....

I particularly get annoyed when they cant seem to perform basic tasks. Anyway, to cut a long story short on 2 occasions this week i have unknowingly "snapped" at one particular guy for reasons i wont go into, basically the problem with what i said was not so much the words i used but the tone i which they were said.

It must be bugging me, i actually lost sleep on it last night.

I notice that you mention that you are having what you would consider negative behavioral changes. You mention snapping at people when you normally wouldn't, being irritated at other providers performance and loss of sleep because these issues that arise at work.

I am not saying that you are showing signs of work related anxiety. That is something for you to evaluate with your team but I will mention it because it is often very difficult to join the dots from the inside, cant see the Forrest for the trees so to speak. I find that most often when I am feeling misunderstood it is me that is not getting the point. That my ambulance companion has always been a dunts, only now I am being a jerk about it. Most often for me, it is not my environment that has changed but my perception of the environment. The combination of school, work, family, and all the other stuff in life sometimes fills our BS meter to the top. I can always tell because it begins to spill out and get on others. Why should i be the only one that is ticked off?

You know those first chapters of Paramedic School that talk about Paramedic Well being are often overlooked as Bull Sh*t filler pages. In fact they are pretty important and should be revisited with the same frequency as other subjects such as pharma or cardio.

Look for the other, real reasons that you are irritable, take a day off, hold hands with the misses, hug a kid. You will be surprised.

I think that sitting with your people and talking it out is a great proactive and very adult way to begin finding out what has changed. I congratulate you for taking the bull by the horns.

Cheers

Edited September 27, 2012 by DFIB

[BushyFromOz]

good point defib i think your onto something there

Just as well im on 4 weeks leave in 3 days

[DFIB]

good point defib i think your onto something there

Just as well im on 4 weeks leave in 3 days

Good for you! Have a great and relaxing time!