boyfriend/work

[Scaramedic]

"AJ STEP AWAY FROM THE KOOLAID"

Ruffems you win the award for funniest line in this thread!! =D>

And to AJ, lighten up, listen to the advice and learn. If you don't want honest answers don't ask for advice.

[Just Plain Ruff]

Guys I think she got mad at us and won't come back. She wanted advice, she got it, she didn't like it so now she doesn't like us. Oh well. No sleep lost here.

[Ridryder 911]

Nawwww... she's on the phone ! :wink:

R/r 911

[Just Plain Ruff]

but only in between calls, never while on a call.

Or she might be cleaning her B/F ambulance for him

[AJ]

didn't leave, just didn't feel like saying anything else and getting my head ripped off for my beliefs.

besides, i was in the middle of a family emergency and couldn't read the board.

and no, actually, i'm not way behind in school, i'm at the top of my class.

[Dustdevil]

didn't leave, just didn't feel like saying anything else and getting my head ripped off for my beliefs.

I would hesitate to classify anything you have said here as a "belief." More like myopic contentions.

Nobody is knocking your obsessive desire to spend every waking moment in your boyfriend's face. We've all been there. Some of us are there right now (although not with a boy ). What we are knocking is the lack of professionalism that keeps you from exercising good judgement and self control. You're ignoring the voices of reason, both here on the board and inside your head. It's selfish. It's immature. It's unprofessional. And it's going to get one or both of you in trouble if you don't get it under control. And when that happens, hopefully it will be enough of a reality check for you to step back and see how truly silly your thinking was.

Good luck!

[medik8]

Yeah...AJ...It is not the intention of the people on this board to be cruel to anyone. However, we ARE honest. There is a difference. You asked a question. We, who have walked many miles in our boots and who have seen, heard and just about done it all (and believe me, if you stay in this profession, you will someday be able to say the same thing) are trying to answer you. We are only trying to give you the heads up on what will and won't fly in EMS. We know this either due to our own mistakes, or direct observations from others and their mistakes. Being irresponsible, unprofessional and closed-minded are not only strikes against you...they can be dangerous.

You can take what we have said any way you want to. No one can tell you how to process our information...but...look at it like this. We all have our own stations that employ young people just like yourself. If we wanted to pick on someone just for the hell of it, we aren't going to spend our precious free time aggravating you about your boyfriend. We can pick on one of our own newbies. We are simply trying to give you advice and help you out, as you asked.

As Dust said...we have all been young and in love and had the feeling like the person we were with was the greatest person on the planet. We have all had that happy, unbelievable feeling when you think the person you are with is the one that you are going to spend the rest of your life with. And...you may be correct. However, chances are that whether you stay with this guy, or not, you are still going to look back on this and realize that we were correct.

You don't have to take anyone's advice, but don't be closed-minded about it. Think about what has been said and process it, and then store it or toss it. Life gives you many opportunities to learn. The beautiful thing about life is that you can make your own decisions. However, it is a learning experience for all of us. Learn from other people's experiences. It will help you to make good decisions and avoid those situations that will be hurtful to you or your career. From one girl to another....just be careful. Don't get so wrapped up in someone that you lose your own independence and individuality, as well as your own morals and beliefs. It's easy to do. Take it from someone who has been there and was part of a very painful relationship. It's easy to be young and in love and to want to please that person so much that you lose sight of all that is important...and when that is gone...you end up with nothing. It doesn't mean you have to stop loving him....just keep your independence and your loyalty to yourself in the process. Trust me on this....

Good Luck... :wink:

xoxoxo

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[Michael]

How fortunate that squads volunteering wisdom are still uncontroversial. Beautifully said, 8.

[N.S. ACP]

I will share with you my general advice for all relationship problems.....Dump him. This strategy seems to resolve any and all problems immediately and with out the headache or extra effort. And I mean come on....That's where its headed anyway. :wink:

Hammer and Dust giving couples counseling on a new FOX reality show!!! I'd watch that!!!!

[medik8]

Hammer and Dust giving couples counseling on a new FOX reality show!!! I'd watch that!!!!

Me TOO! :happy1:

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